Living in New York City can be an emotional rollercoaster. If there’s one piece of advice that all locals and tourists should follow, it’s this – pick and choose your battles. Not all negative situations and encounters are about you, personally. And chances are, most New Yorkerss have gone through the same. If you find yourself in any of these situations while in NYC, you definitely shouldn’t take them personally.
Getting rejected for an apartment.
It happens to the best of us. Meeting the standard NYC apartment requirements of earning 40-plus times the monthly rent per annum and maintaining a high credit score can be difficult enough, but some landlords and co-op boards are just tough to crack. Even Barbra Streisand was famously rejected from co-ops around the city for reasons such as being “too flamboyant.” So if you’ve gone through the tedious, paper-filled application process for an apartment, only to be turned down, rest assured that you’re in good company.
Not landing a job.
There’s an enormous pool of applicants for any job worth having in New York, so don’t take it personally if a position you wanted is given to someone else. Timing is everything, and job hunting can be a numbers game. Keep your head up and apply elsewhere until you find a company that will appreciate what you have to offer.
Not getting a callback.
Just like applying for jobs, rejection is the name of the game if you’re an aspiring artist in NYC. No matter how talented you are, you’re going to hear “no” far more often than you hear “yes.” Shake it off, and move on.
When a good date goes MIA.
Maybe you’ve found a guy or girl you’ve had a great time with, only for him or her to suddenly stop responding to your messages and phone calls. While it may feel like a big blow to the ego, keep in mind that the NYC dating pool is overflowing with singles. It really isn’t that difficult to replace the one that went MIA.
Lack of customer service.
Of course, you can expect great customer service at many high end stores or restaurants. In everyday establishments like H&M or Fairway, however, don’t be surprised if the cashiers are talking on their phones, chatting to co-workers, cussing, or not saying a word to you. Is it acceptable behavior? Absolutely not. But unfortunately, lack of customer service isn’t anything out of the ordinary in the Big Apple.
Getting turned away at a club or bar.
Sometimes, bouncers or doormen may be having a rough day or going through an ego trip. And sometimes, you may be on the receiving end of their bad mood – in other words, you may be turned away from a club or bar without any real reason. Rather than ruining your night out by trying to fight it, just pick another place to visit. If anything, that choosy doorman is costing his club or bar money. So take your dollars elsewhere and have a great time.
“Rude” New Yorkers.
Pushy people on the sidewalk, abrupt comments, and slip-ups when it comes to basic etiquette are all part of the territory when living in New York City. You shouldn’t take it personally if you have a seemingly rude encounter, as there could be a million reasons behind it, like you’re catching someone on their worst day. After all, you have more important things to think about. And for the sake of correcting the antiquated stereotype, keep in mind that one rude New Yorker doesn’t represent the majority of us.