|Are you a jealous of others?|
When you live in New York City, it’s hard not to notice that the entire city is driven by competition. Inevitably, there’s one emotion that will rear its ugly head at some point during every NYC local’s time here – jealousy. Even if jealousy isn’t typically part of our personality, we all feel as if we might lose out on something or someone at some point – and this type of mentality can be draining and unproductive. Whether you find yourself having feelings of envy in relation to your job, your looks, your kids, your boyfriend, or any other area of your life, it’s important to nip jealousy in the bud. Here are four ways to keep your emotions at bay and focus on what matters most.
Know your strengths.
It sounds cliché, but the more confident you are, the easier it is to avoid feeling jealous. Before you sell yourself short, consider the areas in which you excel. Are you the top performer for your sales team at work? Are you naturally gifted as an artist? Do people tend to come to you first for advice? These are all qualities that are worthy of respect and admiration in one way or another.
You can even write out a list of your strengths so you have a physical reminder of your awesomeness whenever you need a mental or emotional pick-me-up.
Understand where uniqueness comes from.
There’s one enormous flaw in our logic, which is usually what leads to jealousy, and it’s this: We forget that our most unique traits – those characteristics that make us irreplaceable – cannot be measured.
Sure, we can all find someone who is prettier, smarter, or more talented. But when it comes to our relationships (friends, family, or romantic), there’s a certain “X-Factor” we all have, which is why our loved ones love us in return. There’s no point in even trying to compare ourselves to someone else on a personal level, because each of us is one of a kind.
Cut back on social media.
There’s a reason why the creators of popular social apps and websites are all billionaires now – businesses bank on people’s insecurities, which enables them to sell products and services. Stop comparing yourself to people on social media, whether they’re fitness models, pro athletes, celebrities, or former classmates. You’re only seeing the highlights of their lives, not the full picture.
Work on self-improvement.
We gain confidence and satisfaction when we see ourselves progressing in one form or another. Rather than remaining unhappy with a situation or circumstance, do something to make it better. If you’re working towards reaching new self-improvement goals, it’s nearly impossible to carve time out to feel jealous of anyone else.
|It’s impossible to dodge every competitor in NYC. Nip jealousy in the bud by working on your own goals, so you won’t feel jealous of anyone else.|