LIVING SINGLE IN NYC
by Liz Magee
|You have to listen to this! –credit|
This has happened to me not once, but twice: I grab drinks with a guy and after we cover the “Where are you from?” and “What do you do?” and attempt to detect any signs of mommy or daddy issues, we move on to taste in music. At this point, he mentions a particular song and insists that I listen to it right at that moment. We spend the next three and a half minutes listening to said song via his headphones, while he sits patiently, watching. I repeat, this has happened to me more than once.
I would never subject my date to listen to my current jam. Partly because I have a terrible, girly-girl taste in music. Let’s just say that Beyoncé and Taylor Swift are responsible for most of my top 25 most played on my iTunes. Mostly it’s because I’m not really looking for a date to accompany me to the Sara Bareilles concert; my roommate and I already have tickets. Although, I get the incentive. He wants to gauge if I have an appreciation for something that he appreciates.
|I would never subject him to listen to Taylor Swift’s latest track. But you should. Right now. –credit|
Sharing interests is one of the few genuinely fun aspects of dating. You learn about new bands or an obscure life-changing foreign film, or that there is an adult lacrosse league in New York City. Some interests land and resonate with your date and you experience the ever-enjoyable moment of “me too.” But sometimes it doesn’t, and that’s okay. I’d like to think that I have the ability to be with someone who has very different interests, like hard metal or ice fishing, perhaps.
Another show-and-tell trend is the exchange of youtube videos. It starts with an innocent “Oh, you have to see this!” And the next thing you know, you’ve seen the cat video that gets him every time, his all-time favorite episode of Drunk History, a short film he made with his buddies a few years ago, the movie trailer for the upcoming Michael Bay flick, and an acoustic cover of “Hey Ya.” I had three different guys at bars show me Gangam Style on their phones back when that nonsense was in it’s prime. Sorry, but I still don’t get that one.
|I know, there are a lot of choices, but you must be able to collectively make a decision –credit|
You should find your someone to be utterly fascinating. This will probably mean they are quite different from you. Whoever coined the expression “opposites attract” will probably fall for the one person who disagrees with that. Tell ’em what you’re into and speak about it with pride. Own it.
So what if he isn’t into Pinterest and watching Pretty Little Liars like you are? Here’s hoping that he’ll like that you like it, and find it endearing. Just as you’ll potentially find it endearing that he wakes up and dozes off to SportsCenter and eats Spam on the regular.
|With the right guy, this could be an endearing snack –credit|