LIVING SINGLE IN NYC
by Melissa Kravitz
|There’s so much love to find in NYC. –credit|
Last Saturday brought ladies (and a few men) from all over the country to the comfy and chic Toshi’s Living Room at the Flatiron Hotel. As the excitement buzzed for Match.com‘s annual “Singles in America” panel, guests sipped sweet Van Gogh cocktails and nibbled on snacks like sliders and steak kebabs — odd choices perhaps for a woman-centric event, but guests in four-inch stilettos seemed amused.
The panel discussion was led by Patti Stanger, of The Millionaire Matchmaker fame, and she was accompanied by celebrity blogger Perez Hilton, sex blogger Emily Morse, Cosmopolitan’s Sex and Relationships Editor Anna Breslaw, and Match.Com’s Chief Scientific Advisor Dr. Helen Fisher. The event was streamed live, and can still be viewed for those who want to watch, or re-watch the discussion.
Bravo’s celebrity matchmaker claims that the number one way to meet someone is online –– that’s how she met her boyfriend of a year and a half. Though many New York singles are too busy to maintain an online profile, Stanger suggests that meeting someone online is a lot more transparent than meeting someone in a bar. You’re more likely to meet a person you’ll get along with on a date via a site like Match.com –– also the official sponsor of the event –– than at a random meeting elsewhere.
|The panel discusses singles in America.
|Perez Hilton with Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger
The panel was also open to sharing dating advice to guests who had pressing questions. Regarding the first date, Perez Hilton (who is gay and also a single father), believes that the person who asks the other person out plans and pays for the first date. Stanger disagrees, and said that the man should always pay. In a room of powerful New York women, this was received controversially, and many women do not want to be set to this gender standard.
According to Stanger, dinner is an ideal activity for a first date. “Coffee is cheap, lunch is an interview, drinks are an audition, and dinner is romance,” she said, to a crowd of New Yorkers already planning their next social engagement on their iPhones. Maybe in LA dinner is the way to do it, but New York women all agreed that drinks or coffee are definitely the best options for a first date, “Who has time for a full meal?” Hilton, a new New Yorker, who sometimes goes on multiple dates in one evening, said eating two dinners is just a bad idea.
When it comes to dating, statistics cannot explain how two people should interact with or feel about each other, but the facts certainly led to an interesting discussion. Unbelievably, 44 percent of American adults are single, which leaves over 100 million weirdos, romantics, and potential suitors for you.
|Go find your match.–credit