LIFE IN THE APPLE
|New York is a city filled with transplants.|
With thousands of people moving to NYC every year, it’s only natural that there would be a bit of a rivalry between born-and-bred New Yorkers and transplants. As a non-native myself, I’ve heard just about every aggravating statement and question possible pertaining to my move to the city – both, from locals and outsiders. Apparently, a lot of transplants have heard the same. These are six of the most annoying comments I hear.
1. “You’re not a real New Yorker.”
Great job, Columbo. You’re right. I’m not originally from New York – I’m from Hawaii, and I’m damn proud of that. I can understand how irritating it can be to hear so many new transplants immediately start referring to themselves as “New Yorkers” (it bugs the hell out of me when people call themselves an “islander” when they weren’t actually born on an island). But seriously, give it a rest.
I respect those who were born and raised in such a tough city, and I make no claim to be one of them. My perpetual “transplant” status is just fine with me. Besides, dropping my Hawaii card tends to get me a lot more free drinks in this city.
2. “If you think NYC is so great, you’re obviously not from here.”
True – again, I’m not originally from New York. I don’t have the firsthand experience of being here throughout the decades and witnessing the gentrification from the 1980s until now. But I do have the experience of living in several places, from Hawaii to England; so suffice it to say, I have a pretty good idea of what works for me.
If you’re a native who strongly dislikes this city, then I recommend leaving it for a while and broadening your horizons. I don’t believe in only living in one state, let alone city, for your entire life if you can help it. Plus, maybe if everyone who dislikes NYC would leave, then the rent prices would drop for the rest of us.
|If all the people who dislike the city leave, maybe the rents prices would drop.|
3. “You could buy a mansion in places like Iowa for the price you’re paying for your apartment.”
Yeah. But then when I walk outside, places like Iowa will be there. So, no thanks.
4. “How long are you planning on staying in New York? This must be temporary.”
Believe it or not, some of us transplants are actually here for the long haul and not just for bragging rights. So I find it funny how many times the same individuals ask me this question, even after I’ve told them that I moved to NYC with every intention of staying. (And by “funny,” I mean “annoying.”)
5. “I can’t imagine raising a family there.”
Alright, so don’t. I just checked my to-do list, and “having babies” isn’t written on there. I’m not really sure why people constantly say this to me, as if it’s a relevant topic at this point my life.
6. “Why would you want to live somewhere so expensive? It’s impractical.”
…Because I can’t choose where I am based solely on the cost of living. Not all of us are wired to be practical, and I just happen to value culture, diversity, and real-world grittiness more than financial security for now.
Aside from the fact that living in NYC makes a lot of sense for me career-wise, I’m not good at watching exciting things happen. Instead, I need to be in the middle of where it all goes down. So if I have to work extra hours, face some of the stiffest competition in the country, or give up my retail therapy habits (like buying myself a new dress every time I had a bad day at work), then so be it. The experience of being in this city is completely worth the sacrifices.
|I’m not good at watching things happen. To thrive, I need to be in the middle of it all.|