Not everyone enjoys being the center of attention, but being overlooked isn’t a nice feeling either. With more than 1.6 million people living on the tiny island of Manhattan alone, it may seem impossible to stand out from the crowd. Surprisingly, it’s easy to garner positive attention if you know who you are, what you stand for, and if you’re willing to venture outside your comfort zone. Whether you’re at a business function, cocktail party, or in the middle of a packed pub, here are six ways to stand out from the crowd in New York City.
This one’s a given, but confidence means more than liking who you are as a person. Stand with good posture, keep your head up, and look engaged in the moment. Slouching in the corner and scrolling through your iPhone is hardly the ideal picture of confidence – you must also be approachable and open to interactions with new people.
Wear your outfit – don’t let your outfit wear you.
It doesn’t matter if you’re wearing the hottest new Dolce & Gabbana cocktail dress with fierce stilettos. If you’re not comfortable in your outfit (and if you can’t walk properly in your heels), then you’re doing yourself a huge injustice. When you look good, you feel good, but you also need to feel good – aka comfortable – in order to look good in whatever you’re wearing.
|Look good and be comfortable.|
Get rid of the shyness factor.
Shyness stops being cute once you’re out of elementary school. If you consider yourself a shy person, think about it this way – stop trying to come across as outgoing. Instead, focus on making those around you feel relaxed. This means making eye contact, listening to what they’re saying, and maintaining open body language (don’t cross your arms). These practices not only make others feel at ease in your presence, but they’ll make you feel more secure as well.
|Make eye contact.|
It’s not often you’ll come across a New Yorker who doesn’t speak about themselves freely. But in the event you find yourself struggling to keep a conversation going, just ask some open-ended questions. If you know you’re going to be attending a certain social event, prepare ahead of time by thinking of a list of questions you can ask while getting to know someone new. People love being asked about themselves. In doing so, you will come across as interested, engaged, and someone worth talking to.
|Don’t be afraid to ask questions.|
Speak your mind.
Mob mentality can occur in any situation, meaning it’s easy to go along with someone’s opinion, even if you disagree. Don’t be afraid to speak up and be open about your beliefs. As long as you’re stating your case in a respectful manner, different opinions can make for an enriching conversation. Plus, having a unique viewpoint will stop you from blending in.
|Have a different viewpoint? That’s okay. Be respectful, but speak up.|
Don’t be a one-trick pony.
If you can’t discuss anything except makeup tips, you might want to consider expanding your horizons. Nothing is more stimulating than someone who can converse about a wide range of topics, from what’s new on Broadway, to the latest Stephen Colbert jokes, to economic theory. The more areas of expertise you have under your belt, the more you’ll stand out and leave a lasting impression on other New Yorkers.
|Expand your horizons and stand out.|
How do you stand out from the crowd?
Thanks to Eric Barao for the photos in the post.